Exploring Our Sexual Fantasies

Theres nothing wrong with a bit of fantasy.Our imaginations can get pretty wild. Sometimes our fantasies catch us off guard and fall way outside of our comfort zone.

They surprise us and leave us feeling ashamed or confused about our desires. Not to mention the societal rule-breaking and taboo of sexual fantasies that can make things even more exciting or shameful.The beauty of fantasizing is that we have an opportunity to do anything, anywhere, with anyone and as long as it stays a fantasy it hurts no one.

But, there is a big distinction between the things we enjoy fantasizing about and the things we actually want to do. Fantasy isnt just reserved for the bedroomFantasies are like daydreams. Everyone fantasizes its a fundamental part of human nature.

Sometimes I like to play junior detective to real-life mysteries specifically missing person cases. Nothing brings out my inner investigative skills quite like the bat-shit crazy of a real-life mystery. My fellow true-crime fans can relate to the adrenaline spike of figuring out the motive and making connections early on in a breaking case.

But outside of the fantasy of it all squarely back in my all-too-normal real life I have no interest in becoming a detective. I dont spend my time interrogating witnesses or plotting kidnappings.But, that doesnt mean the story or the fantasy is any less fascinating or stimulating.

Sexual fantasies get a bad rapSexual fantasies are often awkward to talk about even with a close partner. Under all of the stigma, shame, and the various other complexities sexual fantasies are simply thoughts that evoke feelings of arousal.Pretending Im a home-based true-crime detective is a fantasy that provides me with a sense of importance.

Imaging myself clothed in leather and dominating a group of bound men also gives me a similar sense of importance. Neither is inherently right or wrong since each fantasy only exists in our imagination.Embrace your fantasiesLucky for us, we have the ability to read erotica and watch pornography that suits our fantasies and sometimes thats enough.

Often the things we find erotic and sexually stimulating are still things we only want to read about or watch never orchestrate or participate in. Instead of feeling guilty or ashamed of all those sexy images floating around our heads we can use them as a sexual desire booster to enhance our arousal and sexual experience.Dont squash your sexual creativityFantasizing about sex is completely natural.

And a lot of people use fantasy to help achieve orgasm whether partnered or solo. Sex starts and ends in the brain. Having an active imagination helps us prepare for sex well before anything physical even starts.

Actively sharing our fantasies with our partners can add another layer of intimacy to our relationship and allow for new experiences in a safe and committed environment.So unless your sexual fantasies are negatively affecting your relationships, its best to accept them as a normal function of being a human and a part of our sexuality we cant fully control. Once we stop feeling ashamed of our fantasies and accept them as a natural part of our human experience we quickly learn those images and situations our minds conjure up only enhance our excitement and pleasure RELATED QUESTION Which custom lighting design manufacturers would you choose to work with (as in, your preferred list of custom lighting design manufacturers for new projects, renovations, and/or construction of a new home and/or commercial property) and why?

Residential and commercial lighting are different products. You do not give a reason for wanting custom vs. off the shelf products.

A unique custom lighting product is backlit onyx and hinoki wood walls, desks, columns, and stairs by GPI Design of Cleveland. The onyx and hinoki veneer are sandwiched between glass. Boyd Lighting is a San Francisco Bay Area maker of high end lighting.

Phoenix Day is another Bay Area custom manufacturer. Holly Hunt is a collection of custom lighting manufacturers. Working with a lighting designer will save you time and money while guaranteeing your project will meet codes, function, and look good.