Why Donu2019t Narcissists Say Goodbye?

Because they want you to chase them. When they disappear without an explanation, you are naturally going to come after them. After all, you thought you were in an actual relationship with a functioning human being.

You want to figure out what happened. They know that this is how most people work, particularly empaths. When you come after them all distraught due to their sudden disappearance, they are proving to themselves that:(1) They are superior to you as it is you coming running after them; so you are the weak one, not them; right after a narc injury caused by you (which makes them feel less than), they especially need to prove to themselves that they are better than you(2) They know you will experience pain when they dont say goodbye, which they feel you deserve as you caused them a narc injury; they enjoy your pain, remember, and they are well versed in how to draw it out in you; so its also to punish youLeaving you without saying goodbye has nothing to do with them not wanting you to have closure.

They dont care enough about you to consider what will make it easier for you to heal or move on, or not. Cmon, they dont take their thinking about you that far. Dont give them that much credit.

Theyre not that thoughtful of you. Or deep. They simply want to prove to themselves that they are better than you.

And they want to make you hurt.Thats all thats really going on when they leave without an explanation.Lovely way to end a relationship with someone once supposedly so dear to you, dont you think?

Their mode of exit just further confirms that they dont deserve any place in our lives at all.

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How should I address an email if I don't know the name of the person receiving it?

As part of your final project, youu2019ll have to email your subject-matter expert to set up a time to speak.

It can be a bit stressful to write an email of inquiry to someone you donu2019t know, but chances are, youu2019ll have to do this periodically in your life, like:if you decide to apply for grad school and want to speak to a faculty member about a program.if you have a question about applying for a job. if youu2019d like to schedule an informational interview with someone.

So the ability to politely and thoughtfully request assistance from someone you havenu2019t met can really come in handy!Here are my best tips:Use the most formal form of address. Write u201cDear Dr.

u201d or u201cDear Ms.u201d or whatever is the most formal title. Do not address women you havenu2019t met as u201cMrs.

u201d or u201cMiss,u201d especially if they have a Ph.D. If youu2019re not 100% sure about someoneu2019s gender, you can address them by their full name, like u201cDear Miriam Posner.

u201d When youu2019re requesting a favor from an authority, do not call them by their first name unless they specifically invite you to do so.Keep it short. Your first email shouldnu2019t lay out all the details and supporting documentation of your inquiry.

It should be a brief description of the favor youu2019re asking and an inquiry as to whether the person has the time and inclination to participate. If they say yes, thatu2019s when you can send follow-up details. Basically, your first email shouldnu2019t give the impression that you assume theyu2019ll say yes.

When scheduling a time to speak, defer to that personu2019s schedule. You will probably need to be as flexible as possible in scheduling a conversation. Do whatever you need to do to make it easy for that person to speak with you.

If the person agrees to speak with you, you might start by asking which dates and times are generally best for them, and then finding some times in your schedule that could work. Try to keep the scheduling emails to a minimum.Give the person some options about how to interact with you.

Many people prefer to speak on the phone for things like this, because itu2019s a lot faster than typing everything out. Let the person decide how they want to speak with you

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As a female professional, how should I greet seniors at my office, a handshake or u201cHellou201d or some other gesture?

Hi,there was a female colleague in my last organization.

She made it a point to shake hands with everyone and smiled while doing so.Now coming to your specific scenario. Start with a hellosmile (not ear-to-ear) and let it sink for a few days.

Respond with a brief handshake, if thatu2019s initiated. I understand men/guys are always expected to initiate it.After a few days of observation and assuming allu2019s well, you start initiating the handshake and smile.

If they are at a distance, and itu2019s not an option to reach them, should you happen to make an eye contact, a short hand-wave for u201cHellou201d would be okay. Sometimes a smile and nod of acknowledgement.Short hand-waves would be handy if your senior is in a meeting in glass cabin and you guys happen to make eye contact.

Itu2019s also IMHO a great option, in what may appear to be one of those embarrassing moments, when you say hi and itu2019s not returned (for xyz reasons). You did your short hand-wave, wherein you expressed your dutiful greeting. If you donu2019t get a response, no biggie.

It would be a worse feeling if you were all smiles and did huge rotating hand-wave or a vigorous hand-wave.Short hand-waves -Raise your elbow slightly, shake your hands at the wrist. Iu2019d suggest keeping fingers aligned (though itu2019s your choice whether to keep a gap between thumb and fingers or not).

Practise your short hand-waves in front of the mirror a few times. Yes, I understand it sounds silly, but let me know how it went after you u2018practisedu2019 it and then went to work. Drop me a message on Quora or a comment for this post.

No need to practice it publicly. You could also try checking out a few videos on YouTube, wherein youu2019ll have experts telling you how to greet professionally. Remember, itu2019s important to understand your work environment and adapt according.

I donu2019t know where youu2019re located and hence donu2019t your culture. Here in India, Iu2019ve observed a funny/curious greeting between girls/females. A cheek to cheek touch and they tend to go u201cMwahu201d in simulation.

Of course, the ones doing this cheek-to-cheek-mwah are on good terms. So practise well and go on and say u201cHellou201d.All the Best :)

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How hard is for Greeks that speak Standard Modern Greek to understand Tsakonian?

Difficult but not impossible, its seems Greek to me! Melbourne leads the way, as usual. After I finished reading Nick's elaborate answer, I called, from Brussels, my oncle in Tiros.

Call's cost : five $. But I clarified some things.I am from Arcadia, , but I never lived there.

I do understand some words and expressions, but nothing Tsakonian. Except Aroukatos. My aunt married a Person from Tsakonia and this one I called this morning.

, ,Sati means daughter (daughter is same word with ?) & Orkos, means Child* (I knew that,thats Why I called him to confirm it). Aroukatos, A is good to frighten the naughty young ones,some say meansArkouda,Bear.

(Before Canal of Korinthos in late19th cent. they had bears, like North Greece?)What else, yes Defner .

Thanks to the tenor of the question , I am going back to Library to study Defner's Dictionnary. Did I said the call was in Tiros? Yes ,locals call Tiros Dere(s).

Dorian,Laconian r other kind of influence? Tiros is a Port in Aegean Sea,Dariosh is the Sea in Persian. In Turk language Dere(s) is a small river,a brook and there is a torrent ex river in Tiros .

Ottomans lived for four centuries in Tsakonia 's Port . Did they interact with Persians on the way to Tsakonia, we are not 100% sure for anything of that root. As Arcadian from father and Laconian from mother's side, I advance the Dorian origin .

(I need help from down under)*they use to swear , give oaths in the Head" of their children, as they still do today the Greek people.PS I : They use to look at Sea ,coming down from Tsakonian Mountains in Tiros?Tyrw & Thwrw maybe?

, &,,theory, theater etc;outpost,observatoryPS II:In Nicks Tsakon. examples,above, it is mentionned word mousafiri. This word is a case of Eastern influence, from the Arabic Msafer:voyager,Safara:embassyDIT I : ' yre is another Port in the Med.

Sea, in South Lebanon.EDIT II : (I want to stop editing but is very difficult)Caour,Kaour isnt Kha. i.

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Why do narcissistic people want to always destroy the person in the end?

Yes,absolutely they do.

At first its hard to imagine that your perfect mate who lavished you with flowers and compliments, could have such a personality to actually want to see you rock bottom to nearly nothing.They will rip you apart piece by piece and enjoy every bit of it.Mine wanted me financially destroyed Inorder to control who I could or could not see.

That included my own daughter. That came from the mouths of his very own friends.Warning me of what was to come.

I did not think he could be that cruel.When I did leave and go to another state he followed me and stalked me.Stayed at a hotel and convinced me he would pay me for the items that were mine in a fire that started in his garage.

Many believe that fire was started on purpose.He did not even have the decency to wake the neighbor sleeping upstairs.Well the money came in the tune of $22.

000 and not a dime came my way.He promised $8000 or more but that proved to be another lie. I know it's hard for many to understand what actually happens when in such a relationship but my therapist said it best,it is like being raped over and over again.

First you lose your self esteem,than you feel utterly worthless,eventually you become financially destitute having to rely on others to help you get back on your feet.Yes it is much like being raped or stripped of all of who you once were. What I say here is a mere inkling of the power they bestow.

They believe they are God.Run as far as you http://can.My life may have been altered though after years of working through depression I am growing and most definately I am better off.

I now get to live life